Broken Friendships, Broken Hearts

Why do relationships fail? Why do friendships end? Why do hearts break? I don't think anyone could ever answer any of those questions. I don't really care about why it happens though. Big deal, right? Why. I don't care about that. It doesn't matter to me. What I want to know is how. How could that possibly happen? If people really cared about each other it wouldn't, right? I mean, thats what it is to be friends. You care about each other no matter how much the other person screws up. If I look at all my friendships that I have right now, sure, maybe we'll grow apart in the future, but I don't see any of them actually ENDING. Like ending to the point of neither of us wanting to have anything to do with each other. Cause that doesn't happen unless you don't care. Being friends means caring about the other person more than you care about yourself. Being friends means it doesn't end, it never goes away. At least that is what it means to me. And so I just don't understand how they can end. How two people just suddenly stop caring about each other to the point of not wanting anyting to do with each other. I guess relationships are the same way. I will never understand break ups. If you care about each other how can you break up? I could be wrong and if anyone is reading this please correct me if I am. But its just that...if you cared about each other so much, why would you do things that you know would hurt the other person? And the person that is hurt, if that person cared so much about the other person then why would they let that get in the way of things? I mean, MAYBE you could put cheating into another category for that, but the other side of that is the person who cheated wouldn't have done it if they really cared for the other person. In that case I can understand a break up. Because they didn't really care. I mean, sure, they did, but not really in the proper way. I don't know if I'm making any sense. And somehow people think that its hurt or be hurt. So when they get into an argument they try to say the most hurtful things possible as fast as they can so that they don't get hurt. And that doesn't make sense because making more hurt doesn't make less hurt, it makes...more. And while I know its the anger and frustration coming out, that isn't an excuse. Nobody deserves to be treated like that no matter what they've done. Caring about someone doesn't go away. Being hurt does eventually. But nobody you don't care about can ever hurt you. It only hurts if you care. In that sense friends are given an amazing power. Being friends means you are essentially saying to the other person "I want to care about you enough that I am giving you the ability to hurt me." And because someone is trusting you enough to say that, how can you turn around and abuse that ability? But all of us do it. And we do it more than we should. We do it all the time. I don't understand how we can treat the people we care about so horribly. As Tina would say "thats not ok." And it really isn't. And it makes me horribly upset when I think I've hurt someone because if I really cared about them I wouldn't do that. And thats why I've always had so much trouble being straight and upright and to the point and telling people what they NEED to hear instead of what they want to hear. Because I really don't want to hurt anybody. But doing that isn't cool either because its not being honest. And maybe I just want to know how friendships end because I want to find a way to stop it from happening to any of mine. But at the same time, maybe knowing how they end doesn't really matter. I don't know what that means and I don't know why I said it or how it doesn't matter, but thats how I feel...and sometimes my feelings understand things long before my brain ever does. If my brain ever does. I guess its a different kind of understanding. To an extent I do understand it, but not completely. But then heres another question. If a friendship DOES end but theres still the opportunity to fix things and you don't, is that because you're being too proud to do it? Or is it because you don't care enough anymore about the other person to give them the ability to hurt you? If its the second one, I think thats ok...but...if you both cared about each other before, how can you possibly ever get to that point? I guess thats the main thing I really don't understand...




Oh, and theres only like two people who know anything about what I'm talking about and only one of them will probably even read this so...if you THINK you know what I'm talking about, you don't. If you're completely 100% positive you know what I'm talking about then you do. But...if you're angry about it I guess message me cause we need to talk. As for anyone else...if you have anything to say let me know because I really would like to get opinions.